Book Club Guide
Structured Discussion for Serious Conversation
Before I Do and After I Don’t was written to provoke disciplined thinking — not private reflection alone.
The Book Club Guide provides a structured framework for churches, men’s groups, veteran cohorts, leadership teams, and private study circles who want to move through the material together.
Marriage, divorce, fatherhood, and rebuilding are not theoretical topics. They deserve careful dialogue.
Who This Guide Is Designed For
- Church-based men’s ministries
- Pre-marital counseling groups
- Veteran peer groups
- Small leadership cohorts
- Community-based men’s study circles
- Private friend groups seeking structured discussion
This guide works best with 6–12 participants.
Book Club Guide
The downloadable guide includes:
Facilitator Overview
- How to structure weekly sessions
- Recommended group size
- Confidentiality expectations
- Managing emotionally sensitive discussions
10-Week Discussion Framework
Each session includes:
- Assigned reading chapters
- Opening reflection prompts
- Structured discussion questions
- Practical application exercises
- Closing commitments
Session Themes
I wrote this book for men in different stages:
- Weeks 1–2: Preparation Before Commitment
- Weeks 3–4: Communication & Financial Alignment
- Weeks 5–6: Fatherhood & Family Stability
- Weeks 7–8: Navigating Divorce with Clarity
- Weeks 9–10: Rebuilding with Responsibility
Participant Worksheets
- Self-assessment summaries
- Red-flag evaluation tools
- Conflict pattern identification
- Financial alignment worksheet
- Rebuilding action plan template
Discussion Ground Rules
To protect the integrity of the group:
- Confidentiality is mandatory
- No personal attacks or spouse-bashing
- No legal advice solicitation
- No recording of sessions
- Speak from experience, not accusation
Format Options
Groups may choose from:
- 60-minute weekly sessions
- 90-minute deep-dive sessions
- Half-day workshop format
- Weekend retreat intensive
The framework is flexible while maintaining structure.
Facilitator Support
Group facilitators may request:
- Suggested session outlines
- Moderator tips
- Q&A preparation guidance
- Recommended follow-up resources
Download the Book Club Guide
If you are ready to host a structured conversation:
Preparing to Launch a Group?
Recommended steps:
- Secure participant commitment
- Establish confidentiality expectations
- Set a consistent meeting time
- Assign initial reading
- Begin with intentional structure
Discipline in the beginning produces clarity in the discussion.
Ready to Lead?
If you are willing to lead responsibly, this guide will provide the structure.
